We know that experiencing abuse is scary, not only because of what you might see and hear, but because of what might happen to your family if you tell someone.  The first thing you need to know is you are NOT alone.  What you are experiencing happens to lots of families in the UK, but just because it is common does not mean it is OK!  If you have come to this website you have taken a very brave first step, be proud of yourself.

The best way to handle your situation will vary from person to person so this page, and our helplines page /helplines, are here to direct you to the most suitable place to get the support that you need whenever you are ready.

Remember if the abuse is happening now always call 999 first.

What to do:

1.Identify a safe adult that you can talk to

This can be at home, at school, at a breakfast or holiday club or somebody that you trust

2. Make a safety plan

Know who you will call in an emergency and always have their number on you.

Think of safe places you can get to you if you need to leave where you are.

Keep important things on you i.e. phones, money, bus pass, ID.

Make a code word with someone you trust so that you can tell them your in trouble without putting yourself in more danger.

3. Don't get involved in a fight

If a fight or argument is happening between your family and friends do not get involved, you might be putting yourself in danger.  if you are worried about someone's safety you can call 999 and ask for the police.

4. Remember that it's not your fault

You are not responsible for what is happening or for fixing it.  Everyone needs help from time to time so visit our helplines page and see who would be able to help you.